Is women’s psychology different from men’s? Are male-female differences a matter of biology or culture? Claims about male-female differences lace through self-help books, child-rearing manuals, advice columns, and psychology textbooks. Psychologists have been called on to answer questions about “female nature” and male-female differences since the early 1900s. I argue that it is time to stop trying to answer such questions. The questions are the wrong questions and definitive answers are not possible. In this talk, I will describe alternate questions and alternate ways that we might investigate gendered social life.